Understanding Biblical Forgiveness: A Path to Healing and Peace

I was asked a question in a recent conversation with a congregation member. “Why do so many people leave the church, and why are so many in unforgiveness? Do they not know that is a sin?”

Well, I thought that was a great question, and I thought, yes, I also wonder why. Most that have found themselves in this state are what they would call “mature, word-based people led by the Holy Spirit”, which is an interesting thought. My simple response to this congregation member was that they are either caught in Sin and don’t like confrontation and, therefore, Pride has its place, or they are merely in the works of the flesh.

“Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such, there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.”

Galatians 5:19-25 NKJV

Forgiveness (i.e. love, longsuffering, kindness, gentleness, self-control) is a fundamental concept deeply rooted in the Bible, offering a path to spiritual renewal, mental peace, and emotional healing. The Bible provides profound insights into the nature of forgiveness, emphasising its importance in our relationship with God and one another. Let’s explore what the Bible says about forgiveness, the benefits of forgiving, and the consequences of harbouring unforgiveness. 

1. What the Bible Says About Forgiveness

The Bible speaks volumes about forgiveness, portraying it as a divine attribute and a mandate for believers. In Matthew 18:21-22, Jesus teaches Peter about the extent of forgiveness, saying, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.” That’s, mathematically speaking, 490 times, which also has natural prophetic symbolism attached; however, that’s for another episode. This passage highlights the boundless nature of forgiveness, urging followers to forgive others as often as necessary.

In the Lord’s Prayer, we are taught to ask God, “forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors” (Matthew 6:12). This petition underscores the reciprocal nature of forgiveness; we are forgiven as we forgive. Ephesians 4:32 further encapsulates this message, urging believers to be “kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you”.

The parable of the unforgiving servant in Matthew 18:23-35 is a stark reminder of the necessity of forgiveness, illustrating the consequences of an unforgiving heart. Through these and other passages, the Bible clarifies that forgiveness is not optional but a core element of the Christian faith.

2. How Forgiveness Benefits Us: Spiritually, Mentally, and Emotionally

Spiritually, forgiveness connects us more deeply with God. It allows us to mirror God’s mercy, fostering a closer relationship with Him. By forgiving, we obey God’s command, opening ourselves to receive His forgiveness and grace.

Mentally, forgiveness can lead to a significant reduction in stress and anxiety. Holding onto grudges and bitterness can weigh heavily on the mind, leading to negative thought patterns. Forgiveness allows us to release these burdens, offering peace and liberation.

Emotionally, forgiveness promotes healing and emotional well-being. It enables us to move past hurt and resentment, fostering empathy and understanding towards those who have wronged us. This emotional release can improve our mood, enhance our relationships, and increase our happiness.

3. The Consequences of Unforgiveness: Spiritually and Relationally

Spiritually, unforgiveness can create a barrier between the individual and God. It can hinder one’s spiritual growth and block the flow of God’s forgiveness and blessings. As Mark 11:25-26 suggests, if we do not forgive, it can affect our forgiveness from God.

Relationally, unforgiveness can lead to the deterioration of relationships and the lack of future relationships because we end up in a state where all are laboured: “people who hurt you” or “I don’t trust people, ” which hinders future potential relationships. It breeds resentment, anger, and distance between individuals. Un-forgiveness harms the one holding onto it and strains and can even sever relationships with others. It prevents the restoration of broken relationships and the possibility of reconciliation and mutual growth, which the Bible encourages. It’s incredible how many “bible experts or “mature” believers hold onto offences and unforgiveness. 

Conclusion

As presented in the Bible, forgiveness is a powerful act of love and obedience. It benefits us spiritually by bringing us closer to God, mentally freeing us from the chains of resentment, and emotionally enabling healing and peace. Conversely, un-forgiveness can have dire consequences, spiritually alienating us from God and relationally from those around us. Embracing forgiveness is thus not only a biblical mandate but a pathway to a more fulfilling and harmonious life.

I pray that we would all walk in biblical love, forgiveness and mercy towards one another!